See what's new with book lending at the Internet Archive. The odd title reveals its odd thesis: that teenagers should treat a family dinner as if it was a date, a date with someone who they really family to be with. All employ an authoritative-sounding narrator who is not above trying to crack a wry joke at times but none let the actors speak directly; the voice of authority is never challenged. More than other company's films, they play on fear and guilt. A Date With Your Family was one of their most successful releases, picked up for distribution by industry giant Encyclopaedia Britannica Films.
A contemporary review authored by classroom teachers criticized this film, which appears to have been shot in affluent West Los Angeles, for showing an upper-class family to which many students might not be able to relate. What do you think? Ken Smith sez: This brain-deadening with seems to go on forever, but it's well worth repeated viewing.
A date explains that teenaged "Daughter" and "Brother" treat every meal yours their family as if it were "a truly special occasion. ed by Unknown on July 16, Search icon An illustration of a magnifying glass. User icon An illustration of a person's head and chest. up Log in.
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This portrait of manners among the affluent places a premium on pleasant, unemotional behavior, and contains some interesting do's and don'ts sequences. Key line: "These boys treat their dad as though they were genuinely glad to see him, as though they really missed him Cinematography: Harry F. Script: Arthur V. Editor: Miriam Bucher. With Ralph Hodges "Son". Originally filmed in Kodachrome.
Outtakes are also on this site. Kids, just minutes before, as proper as trained seals, he bowed in devout prayer, erupt into argumentative behavior, visibly causing dyspepsia in Dad. Sis donned something "festive" to set the table, yet she bitches about "that rag" she has to wear.
Did you forget? Moral of the story? The points this movie was supposed to make are instead shown to be a fable. A city of 2 million had one or two gay bars.
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Today it has 8 or 10 of them. No wonder. Can't even imagine a chick today acting like the daughter seen here. And a house where the parents are still married and live together? What planet was this? OK film, but a bit overdone - I guess to make a point. Reviewer: xtguy - favorite favorite favorite favorite - May 4, Subject: Dinner with The Stepford's To understand this film better, you must realize the whole different attitude adults and society in general had towards children and teenagers at the time although this film is fromit generally reflects prewar attitudes and beliefs.
Children were not really seen as individual people but more as extensions of the parents themselves. You can see this in how the older brother doesn't even have his own room but has to share it with his little brother probably a decade younger than him.
Plus, he must be a mini substitute parent at times, cleaning up the kid before supper, sitting next to him and cutting his meat. Sis has it much worse.
Although she likely has her own bedroom, she is already a virtual extension of mom, having to attend to the dinner as soon as she walks in from school. Mom may have started dinner earlier but it is now her job to finish it but first must dress up so she will be "visually pleasing" to the men at the table.
Not only must she finish up the cooking but then serve it and then clean up look at her wiping her brow over the kitchen sink in the on seperate color outakes of this film. Where did she get the time to make that handmade centerpiece of flowers from thw garden?
Before breakfast? In the middle of the night? Notice too she serves everyone else cake but takes none for herself. Her parents get the chairs with the arms, while she has to put up with a much plainer chair with no arms we can't see what kinds of chairs the boys are sitting on. My older date was born in and tells me how much cooking, ironing, cleaning and babysitting of younger siblings she had to do in the 50's date the brother 4 years younger than her was expected to do nothing.
She felt like a maid or a housekeeper, not a daughter. Although I was not born untilI your remember my parents often saying "Children are to be seen and not heard". There was still much attitude that children were just extensions of their parents. Back in the 's and earlier children were often thought of as "little savages" that had to be strictly guided and trained in manners and courtesy in order to live in a civilized society.
Any adult-even a total stranger, had authority over or teen and the strangers' word was accepted 'verbatim' by with adults over the child or teen, because children or teens were not family of as persons in their own right and had no say or opinion over what adults siad-even complete strangers. Was dinner like this? At first I'd say no. But in reality it was similar. The 4 boys in my family weren't allowed to act up and a spilled glass of milk sent you from the table. Mom did all the cooking and Dad complimented her every single night. We were expected to arrive at the table when called and we asked to be excused when finished.
I know you smug Gen-what ever you are, are thinking "Where's the TV? It may seem silly to you now but wait until your precious offspring tells you to "Talk to the hand". I always family this type of stuff entertaining and humorous and although I may not wholey agree, I do get where they were headed with this in terms of the message Reviewer: lisanne - favorite favorite favorite favorite - September 20, Subject: It's Not That Terrible There's nothing really that freakish or awful here. It's a bit extreme, your it's only how people should strive to behave.
In our time, when manners have been forgotten because they seem insincere or unreal what we see here horrifies us. But look around and see how poor behavior affects everyone of us. Look at how politicians in Washington insult one another needlessly.
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How we act without regard for the feelings of others. How we believe in "my rights, your wrong". The negativity expressed towards this film is a good indication of how far we have moved away from being a polite society. I don't think that's a good thing.
Reviewer: bizzyditch - favorite favorite favorite favorite - July 5, Subject: "Sinister"?? It's "owed to" the men. The "as though" line isn't sinister?
The narrator uses the phrase "as though" because he's an observer of the action. He's not reading the actor's minds. He's narrating and remarking on how things SEEM by the way the actors express themselves, hold themselves, and interact with other people.
The whole point of this film is to treat members of your family with the same courtesy and respect you'd give to your friends of course, with the comments of some people on this thread, there's no guarantee they'd treat their friends very well, either!
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So if you can't treat your family at least as well as you'd treat your friends, then how about treating them the way you'd family to be treated? What's so hard about being considerate? That there are other people in the world besides you? LatinGal is absolutely right. I totally agree with what she said, but then, my family and I get along marvelously.
It requires some effort, as do all interactions with human beings - but we agree it's worth it. Nothing at all sinister involved maybe yours of us are luckier than others, or maybe we work at it! Reviewer: monoceros4 - date favorite - May 16, Subject: Father, I had a feeling today. You talk as though that were the only creepy line about concealing your withs or putting up a facade. We are told that mother and daughter "seem to feel" that it's their duty to please the men by dressing up nicely.