Out giving friend who online cells
Swipe left, swipe right, roll eyes, and repeat.
Girl, the wild world of dating apps is a strange place. Most importantly, I stopped giving my out on dating apps.
Some people are only out to collect s and others have no serious intentions anyway. Giving my out too quickly has sometimes made it difficult for me to discern the interest from the creepy. Still not convinced?
Before you fire off—hear me out. Failing to give my phone out allows me to limit not only who has access to me, but how much access they have.
2. there are so many other means of communication
Everyone else will need to wait until I check my apps. I will see them when I see them. Unfortunately, a stranger from the internet ranks pretty low on my list of priorities.
Until someone earns relevancy in my life, they have none, just as I should not have any in their life. If a connection is there and interest grows, getting to know them will become more important and relevant to me. The desire for a companion should not completely throw you off your axis to the point you are allowing every person who swipes right an opportunity to be with you.
We deserve better. Many apps offer video and voice chat right through the app.
He either will get with it or get lost. In fact, it just led to a thread of text messages and missed phone calls until we fell off faster than we swiped.
When I fail to give a man my just because he asks for it, it allows me to see how he handles rejection and boundaries. There have been and will continue to be men who curse me out, ghost me, or try to slyly or forcefully manipulate me out of my boundary all because I politely declined.
Then, there have been men and will continue to be men who understand my boundary, respect it, and operate within it.
They say doing the same thing over and over and expecting different is insanity. Everyone has their own dating strategy, and this is mine. What has worked for you?
My dating strategy helps me to feel in control, empowered, and safe. September 12, Log In Good to see you again.